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Questions about the Aramaic English New Testament
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Lifted from: http://www.calmingminds.com/self_esteem.html

Quote:Low self esteem

People who experience low self esteem are often anxious and lack confidence in new situations primarily because they don't know what is expected of them and fear that they will not meet others??? expectations. They avoid sharing their opinions and may be defensive. They expect rejection, disapproval, failure, criticism, and abandonment. They avoid any situation where they may potentially make a fool of themselves, including situations requiring intimacy. They are unlikely to take risks, and therefore, they rarely achieve their full potential.

People with low self esteem frequently watch others for clues on how to behave, what to wear, how they should speak. They may try to be agreeable to everyone and avoid any confrontation. They have a tendency to be overly sensitive, getting offended or having their feelings hurt easily. Some may be so self-focused that they may seem insensitive toward the feelings of others. They may become defensive, and even appear narcissistic. They may also be quick to anger. As a result, they may have poor social skills and have a tendency to alienate people.

Without realising it, a person with low self esteem may make up stories in their minds about the behaviour, motivation, and intent of others. They might make assumptions that are negative, and believe their thoughts to be true. This can cause irrational decisions, confusion and mistrust of others. They may even unconsciously project their own worst fears onto others. For example, someone who thinks they are unworthy of love, may assume that they will be rejected and will see rejection even when that has not occurred. A lack of self acceptance that is projected onto others often shows up as criticism of others that is excessive. They may develop unreasonable expectations of others (high or low). They may tolerate inappropriate behaviour that crosses respectful boundaries, or they may act out with abusive, insensitive or demanding behaviour. They may not respect other people???s space, the fact that their interests are different, or that they have their own needs of others. This can can come through as controlling behaviour that can feel smothering to the people who are close to them, such as family members and friends.
Self esteem attacks

Most people have heard of panic attacks, but really, these should be called ???self esteem attacks???. These occur when a person feels he or she has done or said something inappropriate, insensitive, stupid, or ridiculous. They may turn red from embarrassment, feel humiliated or ashamed, get heart palpitations, and wish they would disappear into a hole in the ground. Dwelling on this, they may become depressed, devastated, or indulge in self-loathing, and devastation. Such phases can last minutes, hours or even days.
Depression

Depression can be a symptom of low self esteem (rather than self esteem being a symptom of depression). Low self esteem is also often misdiagnosed as a personality disorder. (See also the page on Depression and Anxiety.)

Albion, there are treatment options for this condition. I would highly recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in cognitive disorders and personality disorders. I can imagine people all around you, especially those who you love and who love you, are being affected by this in a very significant way.
+Shamasha Paul bar-Shimun de'Beth-Younan
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Re: Questions about the Aramaic English New Testament - by Paul Younan - 11-05-2008, 06:20 PM

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